They’re intelligent—well-educated, even—but independent thinking seems to be a lost art. Whenever I try to reason with them, they get all glassy-eyed and chant their new mantra: “Don’t judge.” Have you ever seen Invasion of the Body Snatchers? Yeah, like that.
For example, try telling a Christian couple they shouldn’t be living together, or sexually active, if they’re not married. Or that alcohol in moderation is fine, but getting drunk is wrong.
Cue the mantra.
Often delivered with a self-righteous “talk to the hand” attitude. Because you’ve committed the most heinous and contemptible of all sins: you “judged” them.
They have a favorite Bible slogan: “if anyone is without sin, let him cast the first stone,” but conveniently ignore that Jesus also said (just a few verses later), “leave your life of sin (John 8:2–11).” They’re quick to quote the Sermon on the Mount, “do not judge,” and jump straight to specks of sawdust versus wooden planks in our eyes (Matthew 7:1–5). But their mind-numbing mantra makes it almost impossible to point out — logically, intellectually, theologically — there’s a big difference between common-sense judgment and a judgmental attitude.
When we say, “human trafficking is evil,” we’re judging. And by implying that anyone who engages in and profits from human trafficking is doing evil, we’re judging. In fact, name any “justice issue,” and you’re judging. You have to decide what’s acceptable and what isn’t. Whether it qualifies as justice or injustice, right or wrong.
You have to judge … which has nothing to do with being judgmental.
It’s what John Stott said about “judge not” in his book, Christian Counter-Culture, “In all of our attitudes and behavior toward others we are to play neither the judge (becoming harsh, censorious and condemning) nor the hypocrite (blaming others while excusing ourselves), but the brother, caring for others so much that we first blame and correct ourselves and then seek to be constructive in the help we give them.”
It’s legit for Jesus-followers to judge between acceptable and unacceptable, between justice and injustice, between good and evil. Between righteousness (as defined by the Bible) and sinfulness (as defined by the Bible).
A judgmental attitude is a different animal: the snidely self-righteous, holier-than-thou, look-down-your-nose haughtiness of Jesus’ most notorious nemeses: the Pharisees. An attitude that takes perverted glee in pointing out others’ failures while excusing or ignoring their own. Jesus had another term for that — He used it repeatedly with the Pharisees — “hypocrite” (Matthew 23:13–39).
Sigh … Our only hope with the “judge not” cult might be an intervention. (I assume it’s a waste of time to point out that they’re judging whenever they accuse others of judging.)
“Deprogramming,” huh? Yeah, you’re probably right. This brain-sucking mantra seems like a diabolically nasty one.